4 Tips to not crush others with negative words

Trevor Lund
3 min readMar 2, 2022


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You were created to walk with God in the garden in the cool of the day, sin came into the world and you bore the consequences, Jesus came and took your place and reversed the curse and offered you His yoke that is easy and His burden that is light. You’re a child of God creation longs to be revealed. Don’t conform but be transformed so you can have peace and joy and hope at all times and in every situation.

But what if others don’t know you’re a Christ follower because of your negative words?


Ephesians 4:25–31 New Living Translation (NLT) So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbours the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption.Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behaviour.

Thoughts on Negative Words

Wow…how are we supposed to only let encouraging words come out of our mouth?

4 Tips

  1. Control your tongue — How? abundance of heart the mouth speaks Proverbs 4:23
  2. THINK before you speak (or post)-
    True? Ephesians 4:15
    Helpful? Colossians 4:6
    Intelligent? James 3:13
    Necessary? James 1:26
    Kind? Titus 3:2
  3. Know what Gossip is and how to stop it. — You know something is gossip when you’re not part of the problem or part of the solution and you’re talking about it with someone who is not part of the solution or part of the problem.
  4. Be Led by Holy Spirit Gal. 5:25

Extra tip — elastic band to snap — behaviour modification


“Holy Spirit, remind us every time we don’t speak words that build up someone else. Make us quick to repent and make amends. Soften our excuses and let everything we say be good and helpful, so that our words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”

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Trevor Lund

I help you to not conform but be transformed so you can have peace at all times and in every situation